There is a fine line between simply empathising with another person’s state and fully rooting your own emotional identity in their experience. So how do you deal with the overwhelming emotions projected by others around you? How do you ensure that you do not root your emotional identity in the emotions of another person?
I am often asked how I created my journals. Not the actual content, but how I design, print and share everything. It's reached the point where writing out the same response without 'saving it' has taken its toll and my flesh would love to shout 'ASK GOOGLE' to the next person who asks me how I … Continue reading FAQ: How to create a journal?
We should never come with an approach of ‘I know it all’ and ‘I’ve heard it all’. We must remain open and teachable, even before scriptures that we may have read hundreds of times.
“Then Moses raised his hand over the sea, and the Lord opened up a path through the water with a strong east wind. The wind blew all that night, turning the seabed into dry land.” — Exodus 14:21 NLT There are times when we raise our hands in direct response to God’s command, whether in … Continue reading My Worship Creates Paths
Rest is not supposed to be this thing that you collapse into after an exhausting day or season. Rest is supposed to be your starting point. God doesn’t just give strength, He IS strength and He is in me.
We use and hear the phrase ‘brace yourself’ which is said to have evolved from the verb form of ‘brace’: “To make (a structure) stronger or firmer with wood, iron, or other forms of support". ‘Brace’ then evolved to "brace yourself" which translates to doing something physically to keep yourself from falling over or being … Continue reading Grace yourself
Technology is a tool and like any tool it can be used for good or for bad. A knife can be used for cooking, a hammer or axe for building, but both can be used for harm. The tool has no morals or values, it is the user that brings their morals and values to the use of that tool. This is the same with technology. The psychologist in me makes me understand another aspect of the use of technology as a tool. Anything that we use creates or exerts a degree of change in us, whether we realise it or not. For example, when you constantly use a pen or knife, after a while you may see an impression on your hands and fingers. Similarly, our use of technology creates impression marks on our minds which primes us for future activities, decisions, habits, expectations and relationships.
In a generation where face to face communication is almost second place to social media, Whatsapp, iMessage etc. I must stress the next sentence. Mature friendships are void of assumptions and full of intentional communication. 'Assumed telepathy is the silent killer of friendship! No one really knows what another person is thinking'. Ask don't assume. Let any person with the ability to talk — ASK. Let anyone with the ability to talk — TELL! Don't assume that your friends know what you are going through if you haven't told them. Don't assume that you know what your friend is going through if you haven't asked.
While it is very easy to ‘passively’ forgive an offender, with a simple ‘I forgive you’, the challenge comes when you are reminded of their offence every time you see them. Or when you find it hard to get rid of that negative memory. Sometimes these recurring memories and feelings, make you question whether you have really forgiven them or not. So what do we do when we have forgiven but we still remember?
‘Your feelings are real; not reliable’ (unknown author). We should never dismiss our feelings. Feel what you need to feel, but ultimately remember that your feelings are so transient that they can never replace the truth. They should not be the sole determinant of your decisions and reactions.