Technology is a tool and like any tool it can be used for good or for bad. A knife can be used for cooking, a hammer or axe for building, but both can be used for harm. The tool has no morals or values, it is the user that brings their morals and values to the use of that tool. This is the same with technology. The psychologist in me makes me understand another aspect of the use of technology as a tool. Anything that we use creates or exerts a degree of change in us, whether we realise it or not. For example, when you constantly use a pen or knife, after a while you may see an impression on your hands and fingers. Similarly, our use of technology creates impression marks on our minds which primes us for future activities, decisions, habits, expectations and relationships.
In a generation where face to face communication is almost second place to social media, Whatsapp, iMessage etc. I must stress the next sentence. Mature friendships are void of assumptions and full of intentional communication. 'Assumed telepathy is the silent killer of friendship! No one really knows what another person is thinking'. Ask don't assume. Let any person with the ability to talk — ASK. Let anyone with the ability to talk — TELL! Don't assume that your friends know what you are going through if you haven't told them. Don't assume that you know what your friend is going through if you haven't asked.
While it is very easy to ‘passively’ forgive an offender, with a simple ‘I forgive you’, the challenge comes when you are reminded of their offence every time you see them. Or when you find it hard to get rid of that negative memory. Sometimes these recurring memories and feelings, make you question whether you have really forgiven them or not. So what do we do when we have forgiven but we still remember?
‘Your feelings are real; not reliable’ (unknown author). We should never dismiss our feelings. Feel what you need to feel, but ultimately remember that your feelings are so transient that they can never replace the truth. They should not be the sole determinant of your decisions and reactions.
One thing I’m grateful for is the opportunity to say ‘I’m sorry’. No matter how long it takes for me to realise when I’ve done wrong or caused hurt, I will always say sorry. There is a freedom that comes when you acknowledge that you do not know it all and that your feelings are … Continue reading I’m sorry
I shared a 20-minute message on Jonah 3 last Sunday at Chatsworth Baptist Church. Read Jonah 3 and watch the sermon below. You can follow our series on Jonah via YouVersion and join the 50,000+ others who have completed the #JonahChallenge devotional on YouVersion. Jonah Goes to Nineveh 3 Then the word of the Lord came to … Continue reading Jonah 3
There are moments where the phrase “too blessed to be stressed” couldn’t be further from the truth for me. I’m not sure where the phrase came from, however, I do agree that it is appealing to the ear and the concept sounds good. But what do you do when the blessing from God is weighty? … Continue reading The tension between feeling blessed and stressed
The challenge with the saying 'surround yourself with like-minded people', is that we are usually attracted to people who think like us. Psychologists have shown that in varying contexts, people are attracted or drawn to those who look like them and think like them. For example, when employers are hiring for a job, they are more … Continue reading Say ‘no’ to like-minded people
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzMquqRBJFQ At Esther Jacob's book launch, I explored the topic of completion with her delegates. The teacher in me could not resist a delegate-led sermon/session. Enjoy and be blessed by the wealth of wisdom captured on from that day. Thank you to Tosan for filming and to Esther for inviting me to speak. You can … Continue reading What really completes you?
Summer is here and there are incredible Christian events lined up for August and early September. See their respective details below, in chronological order - I hope to see some of you there. Disclaimer - promotion on my blog is free and is not a direct endorsement of the ministrations from specific ministers at these … Continue reading Upcoming Christian Events | August – September 2017