Forgiveness does not excuse the offending behaviour. Forgiveness excuses the offender. The fact that God forgives us of sin, does not make sinning okay. The fact that we forgive someone of their sin towards us, does not make the sin okay.
Hearing ‘I’m sorry’, ‘I messed up’, ‘I feel terrible for what I did’ is like music to our ears. It feels good when someone acknowledges their wrongdoing towards you and oftentimes it makes it much easier to forgive them, right? But what if they never apologise. The reality is that some people will never apologise for their wrongdoing towards you, and waiting on them to apologise before you forgive will cost you your mental freedom. This is why we must LEARN TO FORGIVE, EVEN WITHOUT AN APOLOGY.
The psychology of memory can explain why ‘forgiving and forgetting’ is rarely the case! Our memories are so powerful and a single experience can become entrenched in our long-term memory to the point that it becomes a cue for future expectations.
Remembering an event, a situation, or a person can evoke a shiver of excitement, the heat of anger, or the anguish of grief. Although emotion that is activated by a memory may not be felt as intensely as the actual experience, the recall can be enjoyable or painful nonetheless. Thankfully, the command is to forgive and not necessarily to forget, because let’s face it — it is virtually impossible to forget certain experiences whether good or bad.
This devotional is where ‘psychology meets scripture’ on the topic of forgiveness. Oftentimes, we passively forgive an offender, with a simple ‘I forgive you’, however, the challenge comes when you are reminded of their offence every time you see them. Or when you find it hard to get rid of that negative memory. Sometimes these recurring memories and feelings make you question whether you have really forgiven them or not.
Wow, 365/365! What a year 2019 has been. Many will say ‘she had a really bad, tough, hard year’. My response to them is 2019 has been the most incredible year of my life thus far. It is a year that I can fully say, finishing with life is more important than finishing with accolades. … Continue reading Finish 2019 Empty!
Enjoy my brief testimony on how I overcame Stevens-Johnson syndrome. I have so much more to share on God’s goodness but I will leave that for my EP launch/Thanksgiving worship night! Get your tickets via doctorkanayo.com/tickets 💛
A faith that says, God, I know You can, but even if You don't, You are still good. A faith that says, God, I know You are able, but even if you don't, I will still choose You! This is the type of faith that we should all desire to have.
The fact that we can see a purpose in our pain does not make the experience any less painful and it in no way undermines our suffering. Instead, a purposeful outlook on suffering says; the will of God for me remains good even when my reality does not look good. A purposeful outlook on suffering prizes the eternal promise of glory over our 'light' and 'momentary' afflictions.
We heal better in community. Who you have around you during your period of suffering can either help you to suffer 'well', or to despair.