Lord knows I was fighting back tears whilst reading this book. Having seen domestic violence first hand, this book was extremely raw and encapsulated the prominent issues and emotional consequences of domestic violence, especially when ‘culture’ is involved.
The protagonist (Destiny) reminded me of my mum. I am forever inspired by her courage and forgiving heart to those who hurt her. Iretioluwa reminded me of me, the daughter a mother who was willing to completely ignore what the ‘cultural society’ will say about being a single mother for the sake of her children.
Like Destiny my mum had to run away with me at the first signs of domestic violence, though she went back, she stands firm that even in that questionable decision/move, her purpose for going back was to bring my two siblings into the world. God always has a plan.
“The bible explicitly states that God hates divorce. But what is a woman left to do if her husband wants to kill her?”
Intertwined with raw emotion, humour and lessons to be learned. I’d definitely recommend this book! This book is for all the untold stories of women with those broken chords called marriages. Broken chords of hurt. “Feelings lie buried that grace can restore; touched by a loving heart, weakened by kindness, Chords that were broken will vibrate once more“…
“Forgiveness is not an emotion. It is a decision. It is not about acting as if nothing happened. Its about accepting what has happened and choosing to pardon the offender… a hard choice that takes a conscious effort. “
“Forgiveness is a commandment. Going back to an abuser is not.”
1 in 5 women are physically abused by their partner…and the support system in Nigeria is terrible. A police officer will tell you to go and cook stew to appease your husband. A pastor will tell you, the woman that you, are the reason for the abuse, that you are not submissive enough. When practiced in the way God truly intends, submission is a wonderful and joyous thing…NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE A PUNCHING BAG.
‘Let us put God as the centre of ALL our choices. May God give our young men and women the grace to be sensitive to His leading.’
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Published by Kanayo Dike-Oduah
Kanayo is a Multi-award winning, Author and Senior leader in education whose experience ranges from being a Deputy Head of Sixth Form, Head of Psychology and Lead Practitioner. Kanayo believes that these 3 elements are the driving force of her ministry and career. D.I.G; Drive, Integrity and Grace.
Having a psychology degree provides me with a broad scope to experience many industries and fields of work. Although, my main aim is to continuously learn and also to share my knowledge and experience with others, within and beyond the constraints of the psychology community. Hence my pursuit to teach!
Hopefully, the readers of this blog will find that it is infested with a scope of psychological knowledge, with the intention of conveying psychology in such a way that it is interesting and understandable to those who aren’t studying it as a discipline. In addition, you will find that I heavily cover various topics aside of psychology such as, Christianity because I am a Christian. I draw both passions together, Psychology and Christianity, observing how they complement and sometimes clash! This blog is where ‘Psychology meets Scripture’.
As well as teaching Psychology, I know God has called me to do something far greater in this world. My passion is for His Word and to encourage others to read the Bible, fall in love with it, but most importantly…fall in love with The Author! My role of teaching is not limited to psychology. I strongly believe God is stirring up the ‘teacher’ office of the Five fold ministry in me.
I’m a doctor by virtue, healing and performing heart surgery with words of encouragement.
I am extremely driven and passionate about getting everyone; both Christians and non-Christians to read, understand and live out the word of God. To achieve this, I’ve created online Bible Challenges, whereby people around the world via social media, read a book in the Bible, one chapter a day and share what they have drawn out from the text. I have numerous Bible challenges, all accessible from my blog (www.doctorkanayo.com) and the YouVersion Bible App where over 250,000 people have completed my devotionals around the world. One Bible Challenge at a time, I aim to change the skewed perceptions of the Bible being irrelevant and to show the true reality that the bible is ‘juicy’, tremendously relevant, fun and easy to read. My one prayer is that my teachings and writings from His word, will touch at least ONE person. That would be a serious mission accomplished to the glory of God!
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15 thoughts on “When Broken Chords Sing”
I only got to know about your blog today so Thanks for sharing this, its beautiful. I have a friend whose Mum had to run with her to save thier lives. Now the marriage is over. The girl smiles a lot and seems to be fitting in well but she’s obviously a wounded soul, that much is clear enough to anyone who looks beyond the beauty. How do I help her as a friend she respects?
Thank you very much!
The best way to support a friend, is to be there for her when she needs you, even if she may not express her emotions! Also pray for her, and in general treat her well!
It’s really hard to forgive though. It’s been over 10 years since my mum left with us but I still hurt everyday. How does God manage forgiveness because it’s hard.
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