Lord knows I was fighting back tears whilst reading this book. Having seen domestic violence first hand, this book was extremely raw and encapsulated the prominent issues and emotional consequences of domestic violence, especially when ‘culture’ is involved.
The protagonist (Destiny) reminded me of my mum. I am forever inspired by her courage and forgiving heart to those who hurt her. Iretioluwa reminded me of me, the daughter a mother who was willing to completely ignore what the ‘cultural society’ will say about being a single mother for the sake of her children.
Like Destiny my mum had to run away with me at the first signs of domestic violence, though she went back, she stands firm that even in that questionable decision/move, her purpose for going back was to bring my two siblings into the world. God always has a plan.
“The bible explicitly states that God hates divorce. But what is a woman left to do if her husband wants to kill her?”
Intertwined with raw emotion, humour and lessons to be learned. I’d definitely recommend this book! This book is for all the untold stories of women with those broken chords called marriages. Broken chords of hurt. “Feelings lie buried that grace can restore; touched by a loving heart, weakened by kindness, Chords that were broken will vibrate once more“…
“Forgiveness is not an emotion. It is a decision. It is not about acting as if nothing happened. Its about accepting what has happened and choosing to pardon the offender… a hard choice that takes a conscious effort. “
“Forgiveness is a commandment. Going back to an abuser is not.”
1 in 5 women are physically abused by their partner…and the support system in Nigeria is terrible. A police officer will tell you to go and cook stew to appease your husband. A pastor will tell you, the woman that you, are the reason for the abuse, that you are not submissive enough. When practiced in the way God truly intends, submission is a wonderful and joyous thing…NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE A PUNCHING BAG.
‘Let us put God as the centre of ALL our choices. May God give our young men and women the grace to be sensitive to His leading.’