There is a fine line between simply empathising with another person’s state and fully rooting your own emotional identity in their experience. So how do you deal with the overwhelming emotions projected by others around you? How do you ensure that you do not root your emotional identity in the emotions of another person?
In a generation where face to face communication is almost second place to social media, Whatsapp, iMessage etc. I must stress the next sentence. Mature friendships are void of assumptions and full of intentional communication. 'Assumed telepathy is the silent killer of friendship! No one really knows what another person is thinking'. Ask don't assume. Let any person with the ability to talk — ASK. Let anyone with the ability to talk — TELL! Don't assume that your friends know what you are going through if you haven't told them. Don't assume that you know what your friend is going through if you haven't asked.
While it is very easy to ‘passively’ forgive an offender, with a simple ‘I forgive you’, the challenge comes when you are reminded of their offence every time you see them. Or when you find it hard to get rid of that negative memory. Sometimes these recurring memories and feelings, make you question whether you have really forgiven them or not. So what do we do when we have forgiven but we still remember?
There are moments where the phrase “too blessed to be stressed” couldn’t be further from the truth for me. I’m not sure where the phrase came from, however, I do agree that it is appealing to the ear and the concept sounds good. But what do you do when the blessing from God is weighty? … Continue reading The tension between feeling blessed and stressed
The challenge with the saying 'surround yourself with like-minded people', is that we are usually attracted to people who think like us. Psychologists have shown that in varying contexts, people are attracted or drawn to those who look like them and think like them. For example, when employers are hiring for a job, they are more … Continue reading Say ‘no’ to like-minded people
When do you call on God? What are the things, situations or circumstances that move you to reach out to God - or to even acknowledge His existence and sovereignty? When I asked, most people via a twitter poll said that they are more likely to call on God 'if something bad happens' as opposed to when something good happens.
I have been nominated and selected as a finalist in the Young Achiever category of the ‘Women for Africa’ awards. It is safe to say that I was shocked and honoured by the nomination and I still don't know who nominated me *covers face*. Pleaseeeee can whoever nominated me make themselves known so that I can express my gratitude personally.
(Thank you Pastor Gina Elmes of Family Church, for this word) Discouragement is the loss of confidence or enthusiasm, feeling let down and disappointed even crushed. When we allow these feelings to settle in our heart we can begin to question God’s love and plan for us. Can we really trust Him? Am I alone … Continue reading Feeling Discouraged?
We are incredibly blessed as children of God. We have the privilege of resting in our Father's word and living in His peace in ALL things...including exams.
As a student of Psychology at the University of Surrey (I am now an Alumnus) and a Christian, the debates surrounding mental illness are unending between the two dichotomous yet unified concepts. I think what fuels the debate even more for me, is coming from a Nigerian background. I love my country, but we have … Continue reading Mental Illness: Demons or Dopamine? Psychological or Spiritual?