You watch the series/show/film, the traumatic event has ended, but your reaction to it has not. The intrusion of what we absorb via the media subconsciously invades our everyday lives, our identity, the way we see ourselves and the way we view others. It directs our decisions without knowing and becomes a veil over every experience from then onwards.
There is a fine line between simply empathising with another person’s state and fully rooting your own emotional identity in their experience. So how do you deal with the overwhelming emotions projected by others around you? How do you ensure that you do not root your emotional identity in the emotions of another person?
Technology is a tool and like any tool it can be used for good or for bad. A knife can be used for cooking, a hammer or axe for building, but both can be used for harm. The tool has no morals or values, it is the user that brings their morals and values to the use of that tool. This is the same with technology. The psychologist in me makes me understand another aspect of the use of technology as a tool. Anything that we use creates or exerts a degree of change in us, whether we realise it or not. For example, when you constantly use a pen or knife, after a while you may see an impression on your hands and fingers. Similarly, our use of technology creates impression marks on our minds which primes us for future activities, decisions, habits, expectations and relationships.
While it is very easy to ‘passively’ forgive an offender, with a simple ‘I forgive you’, the challenge comes when you are reminded of their offence every time you see them. Or when you find it hard to get rid of that negative memory. Sometimes these recurring memories and feelings, make you question whether you have really forgiven them or not. So what do we do when we have forgiven but we still remember?
There are moments where the phrase “too blessed to be stressed” couldn’t be further from the truth for me. I’m not sure where the phrase came from, however, I do agree that it is appealing to the ear and the concept sounds good. But what do you do when the blessing from God is weighty? … Continue reading The tension between feeling blessed and stressed
The challenge with the saying 'surround yourself with like-minded people', is that we are usually attracted to people who think like us. Psychologists have shown that in varying contexts, people are attracted or drawn to those who look like them and think like them. For example, when employers are hiring for a job, they are more … Continue reading Say ‘no’ to like-minded people
Gossip; Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true. Have you ever been accused of gossip? Ever had your words taken out of context and spread as gossip? Have you ever accused someone of gossiping or of saying something that didn't sit right with you? … Continue reading Dealing with gossip from the root | ‘He said, She said’
For her inspirational approach to teaching and early career success, Kanayo has been named a Young Achiever of the Year in the Vice-Chancellor’s Alumni Awards 2016.
When do you call on God? What are the things, situations or circumstances that move you to reach out to God - or to even acknowledge His existence and sovereignty? When I asked, most people via a twitter poll said that they are more likely to call on God 'if something bad happens' as opposed to when something good happens.
Hello Beautiful People! Its amazing to see so many of you on board with the #DanielChallenge! Even those that haven't done the previous Bible Challenges ( #EstherChallenge , #RuthChallenge, #JamesChallenge and #LWChallenge.) we welcome you! For those that still don't know what it is, don't worry! The Daniel Challenge is a 12 day challenge, where … Continue reading #DanielChallenge – Day Four Chapter Four