Your brain does not have a race. We all have the capacity to feel pain. Psychology can point to viable solutions. Read more in the post on ‘Psychology and Black Lives Matter’.
Worry is a chain of thoughts and images, negatively laden and relatively uncontrollable; it represents an attempt to engage in mental problem-solving on an issue whose outcome is uncertain but contains the possibility of one or more negative outcomes to the point of debilitating the ‘worrier’ in a state of anxiety.Definition of Worry adapted from … Continue reading Psychology Meets Scripture on the topic of ‘worry’ #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek
How beautiful is it that God meets us even in these ordinary activities and all we need is for our hearts to be open and more aware of His presence.
“But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42 ESV Choose the ONE thing over the many. At a time where people, especially believers seem to be doing … Continue reading One thing is necessary…
This post is for lionesses only! I had a phenomenal time on the panel at Coffee & Prayer last weekend. Following a few snaps on mine and others' instastory there was a huge request for a collation of some of the things that I shared. So the video is below! Hopefully more will be shared … Continue reading Ladies…ROAR! Reject Satisfaction
We should never come with an approach of ‘I know it all’ and ‘I’ve heard it all’. We must remain open and teachable, even before scriptures that we may have read hundreds of times.
Technology is a tool and like any tool it can be used for good or for bad. A knife can be used for cooking, a hammer or axe for building, but both can be used for harm. The tool has no morals or values, it is the user that brings their morals and values to the use of that tool. This is the same with technology.
The psychologist in me makes me understand another aspect of the use of technology as a tool. Anything that we use creates or exerts a degree of change in us, whether we realise it or not. For example, when you constantly use a pen or knife, after a while you may see an impression on your hands and fingers. Similarly, our use of technology creates impression marks on our minds which primes us for future activities, decisions, habits, expectations and relationships.
In a generation where face to face communication is almost second place to social media, Whatsapp, iMessage etc. I must stress the next sentence. Mature friendships are void of assumptions and full of intentional communication. 'Assumed telepathy is the silent killer of friendship! No one really knows what another person is thinking'. Ask don't assume. Let any person with the ability to talk — ASK. Let anyone with the ability to talk — TELL! Don't assume that your friends know what you are going through if you haven't told them. Don't assume that you know what your friend is going through if you haven't asked.
While it is very easy to ‘passively’ forgive an offender, with a simple ‘I forgive you’, the challenge comes when you are reminded of their offence every time you see them. Or when you find it hard to get rid of that negative memory. Sometimes these recurring memories and feelings, make you question whether you have really forgiven them or not. So what do we do when we have forgiven but we still remember?
‘Your feelings are real; not reliable’ (unknown author).
We should never dismiss our feelings. Feel what you need to feel, but ultimately remember that your feelings are so transient that they can never replace the truth. They should not be the sole determinant of your decisions and reactions.