Husband of Insecurity

Hello Beautiful People!

Its amazing to see so many of you on board with the Living Waters Challenge (#LWChallenge). Its a continuation of our Bible Challenge series so I’d encourage you to do the #RuthChallenge or the #EstherChallenge! Remember to use our hashtag #LWChallenge and email with your notes/comments for the blog!

The Living Waters Challenge is based on the book called ‘Living Waters’ written by my sister Susan Deborahs who is looking at ‘Self-Esteem‘ today! . Our main scripture is taken from John 4:1-42. Please read it for further understanding throughout the challenge, although I will be writing my usual short summaries!

John 4 is about a Samaritan woman who had an encounter with Jesus at the well. Now this woman wasn’t any woman, she was a woman with issues, she had been married five times and the man that she was with wasn’t even her husband. Now, we may not have five husbands but those five husbands can represent different issues that we battle with on a daily basis. Struggles are not wrong to have until we refuse to face it and deal with it.

Let us deal with the Husband of Insecurity


1.subject to fears, doubts

2. not confident or certain; uneasy; anxious

3. not secure; exposed or liable to risk, loss, or danger

4. not firmly or reliably placed or fastened

What/Who do you place your security in?

The Samaritan woman was certainly insecure in her marriage. I mean ca’mon to be married five times especially as a female its an indicator of lack of stability and security. The truth is, this is many of us today, including myself. We place our security in the wrong things and when it fails we succumb to the attributes of insecurity and repeat the cycle by placing our security in yet another unstable, fallible thing or being.
  • I placed my security in my appearance…but not everyone will be size 8 without the rolls.
  • I placed my security in my academics…but not everyone will get 100.
  • I placed my security in being accepted by everyone…but not everyone will like you.
  • I placed my security in relationships…maybe He isn’t the one for you.
  • I placed my security in status/recognition…does it define your worth?

For a very long time I placed my security in the wrong things. All the things that I placed my security in are 100% FALLIBLE, they are not stable, certain or secure. I was like the Samaritan woman fetching water from the well that still left me thirsty, these false securities left me desiring more but never being satisfied because they couldn’t give me the security I needed.

13 Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, 14 but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.

15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” – John 4:13-15

Christ gave me the security that I needed. Just like He did for the Samaritan woman. Security IN CHRIST is the most stable place to be. His security overwhelms all the false securities that make you keep going back to draw from the well of insecurity. He provides you with His Living Water, ever present and dependable.

Don’t Compare the Market . Com

For many of us, our insecurities are a product of UNHEALTHY comparisons. Comparisons tend to leave you feeling inadequate and worthless because you doubt your ability to do the same thing another person is doing OR to have what they’ve got. The only way to tackle this, is to cultivate a culture of contentment. Be PROUD of what you have, live with it, ACCEPT the fact that you are different from everyone else, you are one of a kind, special and set apart, the workmanship of God << LIVE out these things, don’t copy others in the hope that it will make you accepted or significant because it won’t…they tend to last for a short while and then you slowly realise that you have to be you again. Famous saying: You were born original, so don’t die a copy. AMEN.

Place your security in who God says YOU ARE!

Place your security in who God IS and always will be!

Faithful, Kind, Full of Grace and Mercy, Loving, Accepting, Ever Present, Sovereign, Mighty…there aren’t enough words to describe our God!
In God, the definitions of insecurity are void. You are SECURE in Him.


1. free from or not exposed to danger or harm; safe.
2. dependable; firm; not liable to fail; as a support or a fastening
3. affording safety, in safe custody or keeping
4. free from care; without anxiety: emotionally secure.
Read the things below out loud, I did it as part of a discipleship course called Freedom in Christ. I encourage you to read it and say it out with conviction and believe what you are reading!
  • I am God’s workmanship, created for good works, Ephesians 2:10
  • I am a temple of God, 1 Corinthians 3:16
  • I may approach God with freedom and confidence, Ephesians 3:12


  • I am assured that all things work together for good, Romans 8:28
  • I cannot be separated from the love of God, Romans 8:35-39
  • I am confident that the good work God has begun in me will be perfected, Philippians 1:6
  • I have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, love and sound mind, 2 Timothy 1:7
  • I can find grace and mercy in time of need, Hebrews 4:16


  • I am God’s child, John 1:12
  • I am complete in Christ, Colossians 2:10
  • I have been bought with a price, I belong to God, 1 Corinthians 6:19-2
  • I am Christ’s friend, John 15:15

There is soooooo much more I wanted to add, but I’ll save it for twitter and another blog post 🙂

Check out Susan’s post on Self-Esteem!

Remember to hashtag #LWChallenge and email anything you would like added to the blog to

Please Join the events page for the release of the book ‘Living Waters’ 30.3.13

God bless you!!! xx

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