Some of us are still dating our past life and romancing the feeling of bitterness when we remember our past hurts.It’s easy to become bitter when we feel that we’ve been wronged by someone – whether it was an ex-boyfriend who belittled you, a friend who misused your trust or a parent who wasn’t there.
Instead of becoming bitter about your circumstances or past experiences, allow God to be your strength in the situation and allow each one to make you better. Nothing that you have gone through or will go through, will be a waste…if you make a conscious decision to be the bigger person and walk in love, even with the seemingly undeserving.
My sister Sheena sent me an awesome revelation that she got and she said something that struck a chord, ‘because love IS God and its His nature, not an attribute, therefore, as believers we have been reborn in His love, conformed to His image and likeness, therefore: We Are Love’(paraphrased)…amazing right!
The onus is on us to activate the Fruit of The Spirit of love even with the unlovable and Martin Luther King Jr. rightly said, “Let no man pull you so low as to hate him.”
Love is deliberate, find feelings of love towards the person who wronged you, forgive him or her and move on so that you don’t allow bitterness to creep in your heart and contaminate the love of God inside you.The way to move on from your past is to embrace your future. Let God’s promises about your future always be in your face…Read His Word.
Let His Word be your benchmark. Don’t use your situation to remix God’s word, let God’s word remix your situation! Don’t reduce the standard to your past experience; instead, align your future to God’s standard.
So if a guy mistreated you, never make that the standard for all men, go by God’s standard that a man should cherish His woman.
If your parent wasn’t there for you, never make that the standard for all parents or for yourself as a future parent, go by God’s standard that parents should lovingly bring up their children in the fear of the Lord.
If a friend betrayed you, never make that the standard for all friends; go by God’s standard of having a friend that sticks closer than a brother/sister.
I encourage you to look at God’s standard in EVERY situation.
You will go through hard times, but the last time I checked, the word through means that there is an entrance and an exit. With God, you will reach the exit – keep going!
Verses To Meditate On This Week
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
— Isaish 43:2, 18 (NIV)
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Kanayo is a Multi-award winning, Author and Senior leader in education whose experience ranges from being a Deputy Head of Sixth Form, Head of Psychology and Lead Practitioner. Kanayo believes that these 3 elements are the driving force of her ministry and career. D.I.G; Drive, Integrity and Grace.
Having a psychology degree provides me with a broad scope to experience many industries and fields of work. Although, my main aim is to continuously learn and also to share my knowledge and experience with others, within and beyond the constraints of the psychology community. Hence my pursuit to teach!
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As well as teaching Psychology, I know God has called me to do something far greater in this world. My passion is for His Word and to encourage others to read the Bible, fall in love with it, but most importantly…fall in love with The Author! My role of teaching is not limited to psychology. I strongly believe God is stirring up the ‘teacher’ office of the Five fold ministry in me.
I’m a doctor by virtue, healing and performing heart surgery with words of encouragement.
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