On Sunday I posted up picture on Instagram. The caption read: ‘When purpose meets purpose’. So many people were diggin’ the caption, probably more than the photo lol. But that’s great, because it means that they might have caught onto the deeper meaning behind my caption. I’d like to expand on it just a little bit for today’s newsletter by asking you, is there such a thing as ‘the one’?
A great number of us have been sold a dream about finding ‘the one’, with the Hollywood or Nollywood storyline of love…and they all lived happily ever after, even with the crazy mother in-law Mama G (joke for the Nollywood fans).
For this part of the newsletter, when I say ‘the one’, I’m coming from the viewpoint where people see ‘the one’ as the perfect person in that moment. So, He’s ‘the one’ for me because He is tall, caramel skinned, well educated and buys me gifts every week. She’s ‘the one’ for me because, she’s beautiful, has straight teeth, her hair is always 100, cooks for me, plays Xbox and she’s ambitious etc.
He or She might be ‘the one’ for you today, but what do you do when they fail to meet your criteria for ‘the one’? If he stops buying you gifts every week or fails an academic exam, or if she has bad hair day, or gets a chipped or missing tooth because of an accident (extreme lool I know, following my example above) – do they stop being ‘the one’?
The notion of finding ‘the one’ based on feelings or aesthetics is inconsistent, extremely risky and a set-up for disappointment. It leaves no room for the flaws that exist in all of us. People with this understanding of ‘the one’, FLEE when ‘the one’ shows any sign of imperfection.
‘The one’ for us in God’s eyes isn’t necessarily the person who we initially see as ‘perfect’, it is ‘the one’ that He knows will help us fulfil our purpose here on Earth.
So yes, I believe there is such a thing as ‘the one’. However, what I’m saying is that our selection of ‘the one’ should not be based on our ever-changing ‘feelings’. It should be based on Purpose (def. the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exist)!
So, Instead of trying to find ‘the one’. Find PURPOSE!
It is ‘purpose’ that will cause you to see beyond the imperfections of that person.
Purpose keeps a relationship together even when you don’t ‘feel’ like staying.
Purpose sees beyond the limitations at present.
Purpose will keep you going.
This is not a charge for people to stay in abusive (emotionally and physically) relationships. God is not the author of confusion. Know what is merely good and what is God. Purpose reflects scripture and not flesh.